I remember hearing a story about a child visiting grandparents – noticing that “grandma” is much taller than “grandpa”. One day the child asks why grandma had married when there was such an obvious height difference. The grandma responds with, “Your grandpa and I fell in love sitting down, and by the time we stood up, it was too late.”
Often there are people look for a partner in which to share a life. Sometimes they base their interests on appearance or personality. And then there are others who develop a love without even trying. And sometimes the situation may seem challenging if acted upon – some may accept the challenges while others choose not to go there due to an orthodox view of race or religion. Others may accept the challenges that they face and try to make a go at it. Sometimes the constant battles will make a couple stronger. Sometimes it ends up tearing them apart.
Recently I watched a movie called “Any Day Now” starring Alan Cumming as Rudy Donatello. The movie is based upon a real situation that took place in the 70’s between a gay couple trying to win permanent custody of a teenager with down syndrome and a judicial system who seemed to focus more about principle than they cared about the youth – one of many who I’m certain has gotten lost in the system.
Rudy works as a drag queen performing at a bar and barely making ends meet. He is comfortable in his skin, somewhat smart mouthed, but definitely NOT ashamed. His love interest is Paul Figer, an attorney who struggles with his identity – not so much ashamed of his attraction to Rudy, but tries to remain “closeted” as he knows acting upon his attractions will jeopardize his career.
Rudy’s neighbor plays music extremely loud, against Rudy’s wishes. He’s constantly asking her to turn it down. One time he barges into the apartment to turn it down, he discovers Marco, who seems oblivious to his surroundings. Rudy has compassion for this youth with down syndrome and takes it upon himself to take care of Marco – though it’s not really his place. He does develop a love for the youth and really does try to due right by him.
Of course I bawled through so much of the movie. I was actually surprised by the way the movie ended. I can’t say more about it without spoiling the outcome. Made me hate the judicial system. Made me love and admire Rudy’s character – and the strength of the couple as they battled a system with prejudices. I felt so bad and sorry for Marco – who did not understand. It was a bittersweet movie.
It’s rated R for language – and usually that word really does get through to me – but I was more accepting of it just because of the circumstances – and because of Marco – an innocent victim. He didn’t deserve the abuse. He deserved Rudy’s love.
I need to stop writing. Because now I’m crying again.