"you shouldn't judge a book by its cover" - what lies beneath could bear an element of surprise
Saturday, December 26, 2015
Our First Christmas in Oregon
We weren't able to get back to Utah
for a lack of funds. Airfare is way
overpriced (even at a senior discount) and Roland didn't have the same amount
of time to take off work as Jenna currently has for school.
It snowed in several parts of Salt
Lake. My sister and one of my sons both
reported that there had been an endless snowfall and probably three feet of
snow - though one had reported that the streets had been clear. How awesome that there are those who give up
pieces of their Christmas to make things safer for others.
We woke up to find snow on the
ground the morning of Christmas Eve. The
sun shone itself out. It was really a beautiful
day. Not too hot. Not too cold.
The air was an invite and in turn invited us to go be a part of it.
Mostly wet yesterday. The snow was gone. All that was left was cold air and soggy
earth. Today is definitely foggier than
I have ever seen in Oregon. Unlike Salt
Lake fog, the air is still breathable - and probably good for my sinuses
actually.
Several gifts placed under the tree
- many of them were total surprises for Jenna.
They would have all been surprises if I had had Roland move the box from
Jeanie and Biff into our room and just put the gifts out for Christmas
morning. Jenna also knew about the gifts
that Rochelle and Tony had sent - but she didn't know about the packages from a
former neighbor or my sister and her family.
I filmed Christmas in order to
document everything that Jenna might have overlooked. Fortunately nothing did. She showed excitement for each gift that was
opened. I was quite pleased with her
positive attitude.
At 5:00 we started dinner. We were expecting the missionaries to come at
6:00. We weren't expecting them to stay
and play games with us. That was really
awesome! I have missed playing games
with my family members. Jenna and I do
our best, and sometimes Roland joins us - but for the most part the majority of
games we have require at least four people.
Some of the games I hadn't even brought with us because I didn't think
we could play them.
It was a great Christmas gift to
play games with the Elders. Jenna thoroughly
enjoyed herself. We each made this the
best Christmas possible. I am quite
happy with the results.
It
is important to remember that not everyone is looking forward to Christmas.
Some people are not surrounded by large wonderful families. Some of us have
problems during the holidays and are overcome with great sadness when we
remember the loved ones who are not with us. For many it is their first Christmas
without a particular loved one and many others lost loved ones at Christmas.
And, many people have no one to spend these times with and are shadowed by
loneliness.
My uncle's family will have their first Christmas without him. He was buried just before we moved to Oregon. It is harder still for families who lose their loved ones during the holiday season - to always have that memory around the holidays. We have seen present neighbors and some
that we left in Utah just recently pass away. We have
seen hardships and we have seen those who choose to move on and celebrate the
holidays as they always have.
I'd like to share the words which my
brother posted to facebook and mirror his message to all of those who may be
reading (and even those who don't) : " I hope and pray whatever your belief
system may be, wherever you are in life, whatever circumstances or challenges
you may find yourself facing, that you may find peace, happiness, and
fulfillment; that is my Christmas wish to all of you."
I
remember being in the congregation during a sacrament meeting in which a newly
returned missionary was giving his homecoming talk.
As he shared various experiences, he would explain why he felt the need
to share. I remember him saying that all missionaries have at least
one dog story.
“We do?” I had thought.
I
must admit that I had missed his dog story as I had been thinking of my own. One that actually brings a smile to my
face each time I think about it.
I was serving in an area where each door had
been knocked on (weekly if not daily) by one religion or another. It came to the point that people just
didn’t want to open their doors as they felt they were being bullied by
religious freaks. We had actually
been told to back off from going from door for at least a few months. No sweat off my brow. I hated that particular method of
trying to find people, but I was with a companion who measured her missionary
success by going from door-to-door.
Many members in that area
referred to our companionship as “The Odd Couple” thus we named ourselves Oscar
and Felix. I was Oscar, and
my high-maintenance, “by-the-book” companion was Felix.
After
two months of contacting members and searching for referrals in ways other than
door-to-door, my companion counted down the days that we would go tracting
door-to-door. I did not
share in her excitement. I know there are people who have been found
through knocking doors - but for me personally, it was not the greatest method
and definitely did not measure my success (or failure) as a missionary.
We had gone to only two houses before a
German Shepherd started to follow us from one house to the next. He would sit behind us and away from
the door as we invited those who answered to listen to our message. A few would look at the dog and ask if
he was ours. As we'd walk away from the skeptic who refused to believe
the dog was ours, I'd make jokes just to get a rile out of my companion.
"Yes,
it is our dog and if you don't listen to our message, he'll eat you."
My
companion felt embarrassed and was a bit defensive as answered their concerns.
“He’s not our dog. He just
started following us. We
don’t know why.”
After
four more houses or so, Sister Felix turned to me and said, “Sister Cannon, we need to say a
prayer so that the dog will stop following us.”
I'm
certain that the look that she saw on my face was one of puzzlement.
“Sister
Felix, the dog could have been sent as a guardian angel. If a prayer is offered, it won’t be in
harmony, as the dog is not bothering me. You go ahead and say a prayer if it
makes you feel better.”
Sister
Felix offered a prayer and pleaded that Heavenly Father return the dog to his
home. No sooner did we say
“amen” and we were joined by a Basset Hound – thus we had two dogs following us. They weren’t doing anything wrong. They seemed well behaved. But it bothered her – which only
amused me further.
We
knocked on two more doors I think, and then Sister Felix became disgusted and
announced that we may as well just return to our car, as we obviously weren’t
going to get anything accomplished. What? No more knocking door-to-door? I was right. They were four-legged angels.
We were told that a light parade is
done each year. It takes place on the
second Saturday of December. The
vehicles start the drive in Riddle and move through Tri-City and through
Highway 99 over to the street just behind the one we're on. The parade then turns down the only street
that connects Riverside to Division,
Division to one of the numbered avenues and then on to Main Street.
The parade is a big deal, and
downtown offers free hot drinks and chili.
There are fireworks at the park stadium.
This has been a tradition for 22 years now from what I understand. I was
surprised they were able to do the fireworks with all the rain. We heard
that it's unusual to have that much rain to fall throughout the day and
hasn't happened often.
Roland found a corner where two
couples were standing beneath an awning.
They had a fire going and told us we could join them. They said it was rare that it was the only
corner with a fire going. In the past
there have been fires on at least three corners. They bring out hot dogs, marshmallows and
sodas. They said we were welcome to
whatever they had, but that it was on the inside of the house rather than
outdoors where they usually cook it (I guess)
We had waited for the parade for a
longer time than the parade itself. Our
neighbor said she counted 32 vehicles and clocked at 7 minutes and 23
seconds. I, for one, was rather
impressed. I wish I could have captured
the beauty of it all - but my pictures don't do justice. We did create a video off Roland's phone. I was
able to load it to facebook (finally).
My neighbor said the sky had been
pounding the rain down all night. It
didn't stop until after 4:00 yesterday morning. When it stopped being rain. I really wasn't surprised to see snow on the
ground yesterday morning. We'd been told
that it rarely ever snows in these parts.
A light snow really. From what
I'm used to. Jenna was excited. She built a snowman, made snow angels and
begged for a snowball fight.
I don't know what time we lost
power. We used the backup generator we
had to check the status against what we had heard on the wind-up radio we
have. It wasn't just Myrtle Creek or
Douglas County that was without power.
Medford was mentioned and so was Grants Pass. That's a lot of area. Our generator went out while we were still
online. It's pretty useless now.
Roland went to Roseburg and
back. He purchased a new generator and
several power chords. He wanted to be
prepared for the upcoming week. He works
from home and needs the Internet. But by
then, the Internet had gone out as well.
We didn't have church.
We had invited our neighbor to come
over and enjoy our heat and play some games.
She stayed with us until the power returned. . Pacific Power had reported almost 7,000 customers
throughout Douglas, Josephine and Jackson counties were without power as of
Monday morning. That number is down from the 25,000 that were without power on
Sunday. We are quite blessed that
our power had returned when it did. The schools in all three counties were either
delayed a few hours or else cancelled altogether
It reminded us of a Christmas when
we had lost power all day - which actually provided perks for many
families. Jenna says she remembers and
would like the power to go out on Christmas this year. She wants only lights from the tree and a
lantern at the table so that we can play games.
I'd like to listen to music. Both
of us seem dead set about the television being on. Now that we have a new generator, Roland
would still resort to a video, I think.
We were standing near this fire pit.The awning provided protection as we watched the parade.Unfortunately it was not able to protect itself.
Christmas does not have to be about
spending money or exchanging gifts - though I love the gift giving thing. There are some years that we have really had
to stretch. We have been recipients of "Sub for Santa" many times.
Overall, I think those are the most memorable.
And I have really been touched by all of those who have made an effort
to our cause.
We moved to West Valley at the end of
2009. It was hard to leave our Kearns
ward family - but at the same time, we felt that the move was the right thing
for us. Less than a week before Christmas, I received a call from the Relief
Society President of the ward we had left.
She said that she had gifts for us from the ward. She came in the second snowstorm of that
season. She brought two other sisters
with her. Their gifts more than doubled
the amount of gifts that we already had.
The next year was Tony's first year in
the WV house. Our gifts were even more
sparse than the year prior (before adding gifts from the Kearns ward). Roland's
mom and sister had sent us gifts every year, but we hadn't received a package
from them that year. I think we had three gifts for Jenna and one for each of
the boys. Roland and I had only one
present for one another. Both simple
(like a twinkie sized furuit cake from me;
Roland actually likes fruitcake - but that's beside the point)
It was just after 10:00 p.m. when I
placed the eight gifts beneath the tree and went to bed. I was really tired and wanted to sleep. I was in awe the next morning to find an explosion
of gifts beneath our tree. I couldn't
even imagine where they had all come from.
As it turns out, both Tony and Biff
had decided to play Santa as well. Tony
had purchased several gifts for each family member, and Biff had kept a huge
secret from us as Richard's mom and sister had taken him shopping earlier in
August. They had loaded up his car with
gifts Neither Tony nor Biff was aware
that the other had also played Santa.
I love Christmas. I love the suspense. I love the Spirit of giving and doing. Recently I read a post on facebook which
touched my heart. My friends were driving
the Salt Lake roads when traffic had come to a halt. In the intersection was a woman behind the
wheel of a stalled truck. A man had seen
her and tried to help. When the truck
wouldn't start, he offered to push.
Seeing that assistance was still
needed for moving the truck, my friend got out of his car to assist with
pushing also. The next thing my friends saw
others had left their cars and were helping to push the truck out of the
intersection. No honking of cars or
verbal abuse from other drivers. The
lights had changed, but every driver seemed to be patiently waiting - on the
roads of Salt Lake. That, my friends, is
truly a Christmas miracle.
I have two brothers and one sister.We would buy or make gifts for each other to
exchange at Christmas.For a while we
had gifts for each aunt, uncle, cousin . . . I don’t think we started drawing
names among dad’s sibs and their families until the first Christmas I was out
on my mission.
Patrick married Sunny who had four sibs and
grew up having exchanged gifts with just one sibling, as they would draw names
each year.I think we still purchased
gifts for each of our sibs and all of Sunny and Patrick’s families until after
Kayla got married.And then we decided
to draw names – family to family.That
worked out for a few years.
One time it seemed all of us were
struggling financially and decided not to exchange gifts that year.It was one of the best Christmas gifts we had
ever given ourselves.
Last year we tried the name-drawing thing
among our own children.They seemed to
like it and I think it worked out better for each of us to do it that way.This year will be different.
This morning I received a text from my
daughter-in-law, Jeanie.She wanted to
know if we’d be exchanging gifts this year.I told her that our family would have to forgo it this year based on
income.I’m hoping that our three sons
will still exchange, but it will not surprise me if that doesn’t happen.
There’s been tension between Randy and
Tony.Both have been riding the
“financially-challenged” boat – both have asked for favors from us.But we are on the same boat ride.I feel so helpless and forlorn about our situations.
We have put up the Christmas tree.That always gets Jenna excited, and she makes
gifts so that there are presents beneath the tree.I’m afraid our gifts for her will be quite
sparse this year.Fortunately she has
not asked for much nor do her wishes come with a heavy price tag.
Colored pencils, cool melt gun, newton’s
cradle, drawing paper, wash tape, mostly small things to keep her hands
busy.I’d like to be able to have
something for her – something she’s not going to get bored with the day after
Christmas.
Christmas should be a time of giving
service, a season to be grateful for blessings, a season to share – even just a
simple meal.So many people miss out on
the joy by stressing over having gifts or going shopping or wearing themselves
ragged.I know Christmas will be more
awesome for us if we just focus on why we have Christmas in the first
place.I hope we can instill that into
Jenna and it may be her best Christmas yet.I know this year will be hard for her.I hope Roland and I can change that and this year will stand out as a
great memory for her.
I am a mother, a sister, a daughter, a friend . . . I am a memory preserver and I enjoy learning. I have lived the majority of my life in Salt Lake County, Utah and am now a permanent resident of Oregon.
My posts include a wide variety of topics including family members (my daughter Jaime and husband Richard are referred to as Jenna and Roland in earlier posts), transportation, nature, dementia, assisted living, and life (to learn why this blog is so named, read my first post created January 1, 2012) http://beneaththewraps.blogspot.com/2012/01/introduction-beneath-wraps.html