Showing posts with label tantrums. Show all posts
Showing posts with label tantrums. Show all posts

Wednesday, September 28, 2022

More Tears, More Reasons

               This morning Ally decided that she would sit in Grandpas chair even though theoretically it is the best choice for him as it is close to the stove.  He should have not given into her but wanted to make peace apparently.  He had already confided in me that he thought she was spoiled.  I dont know how much of that is giving in to her and how much is giving in to the Kabuki syndrome or whatever other illnesses arise.

         He asked her how many eggs she wanted.  She claimed two which he said he would do just one at a time for her.  But he gave her both none of which she ate.  She did try her sausage but said it was spicy which I agree.  I am not fond of that sausage.  Clair usually sits next to her to monitor her feeding but as Ally was sitting in Grandpa’s chair and Grandpa was sitting in Clairs, Ally and Clair were not sitting together. 

        Ally claimed to have had pancakes but no one saw her eat them and there was no evidence that she had.  She appears that she overeats which is actually not the case. She dismissed herself after trying to feed the dogs which I said were not allowed in the kitchen while we ate.  Bonnie is such a loud whiner.  I dont think I have ever heard any noises (barking included) coming out of Char.

        Ally went to her room to get her electronics.  It is still my house and they need to adjust to our rules and not the other way around.  I told her no electronics at the table.  She said she was going back to her room. Grandpa insisted that she stay at the table until we have each finished.  I cant control her whining.  Id just assume she was in a different room than being bratty at the table.  But shes not mine to discipline.

        Clair said that she would not turn on Allys electronic device until Ally was dressed at which point Ally threw a fit.  If that had behavior had been Jaime I would not be turning on the electronic device at all.  Jaime didnt even have a cell phone until she was sixteen.  Hadnt wanted one.  She prefers human interaction to electronics.  Ally doesnt know how to interact at least not that I can tell. 

        I unloaded the dishwasher, loaded it, cleaned out the container cubby, and cried.  The second counselor in the RS presidency offered me a place to go if I need a few hours of solace.  I may take her up on that but not today.  Clair and Ally are suppose to be going out of town today.  Perhaps all three of them.  Going back to Utah to keep an appointment they made six months ago.

        Clairs been through a lot.  She lost her mother right before her birthday.  She has health issues.  She has more reasons to be upset with our living conditions than I do.  And yet she always appears calm and tends to be the peace maker among the rest of us.  I still cry though.  I dont want them to be here another ten years like they were with Biffs former mother-in-law.  Richard says three months.  Now hes saying two years.  Two years?  Really?  We cant have them out for summer so that Jaime has a room to return to?