Two weeks after I started my blog I became part of a search party who went out looking for mom who had dementia and had wandered from home. She could not be left alone. Each of us worked out a schedule so that someone would always be with her.
Two weeks after this year started mom was released from the hospital and spent her last night at the house she’d lived in for over fifty years. It had been on a Sunday when Ellen found my mom passed out and called for Nate to assist. Patrick ended up taking her to the hospital. He and Nate were both dressed for church but stayed at the hospital all day. They did not go to Church that day. Patrick had chosen to stay with mom. On Monday mom’s four children worked together to fill out the paperwork to move mom into assisted living. On Wednesday Kayla took mom to her new home at the assisted living facility – the last place she would live. And Corey came from Las Vegas to assist and say good-bye to the house.
Two weeks ago we lay mom to rest - buried beside my dad. She’d been rushed to the hospital two weeks prior to that. It was on a Sunday when she was found passed out on the floor. She'd been rushed to the hospital. Patrick met her at there. He was dressed for church but stayed at the hospital all day. He did not go to Church that day. He had chosen to stay with mom. He took the next two weeks off. And Corey drove from Las Vegas to say good-bye. We all spent time with her for 7-10 days. And then she finally let go.
Two weeks ago Corey and Kayla and I met Fern and Michelle at the Mortuary. We watched Corey and the Mortician dress my mom. Michelle applied some lipstick – that’s all that was needed. Mom looked like she always does when she falls asleep. She still has her purse.
Two weeks ago we talked with family and friends who had come to pay their last respects. Sunny offered a beautiful prayer before we all went into the chapel. I tied mom’s bow and veiled her face – my final act of service for her. The lid was closed. I think Brian cried the hardest. His sobs just seemed louder than the rest - maybe because he's a giant.
Two weeks ago today we paid our last respects and shared our stories and beautiful thoughts for such a marvelous woman. Daddy’s birthday was the day after the farewell services. It was on a Sunday. Corey had planned to spend this week with mom. Instead she's spending it with dad. We miss you mom! (and dad)