This post is dedicated to my sister, Kayla and our sister-in-law, Sunny.
Kayla has always been the strong silent type – both physically and spiritually. She has always had tremendous faith. She is a survivor.
When she was younger she could detect the slightest movement of a wrapper being pulled away from a food item (usually something unhealthy like ding dongs or cupcakes or m&ms) She wouldn’t even be in the house, but in the neighborhood. Unwrap that piece of candy, and she would appear through the door. But it had to be real. We could never get her to come simply by crinkling cellophane or foil
She would say to my mom, “Can I have a piece of gum?” (or whatever)
Mom, truly forgetting there really was such an item in the house, would come back at her, “I don’t think we have any”
And Kayla would always know. “Yes we do. It is in the third bag pushed against the wall in the cupboard under the microwave”
Sure enough it would be there.
Kayla had a problem understanding prepositions. Written directions would confuse her. Mom had taken her to a therapist and spent a tremendous amount of time with her going over her homework, trying to help her to understand.
Kayla had a huge following of friends. They called and knocked at the door at all hours. It got to the point where my mom had to physically remove Kayla from our house and environment. They went to a nearby drive-in to have breakfast and stayed for hours while they studied.
We used to call her Kaylarella as we would often ask her to fulfill tasks that involved cleaning or serving. And she enjoyed it. I looked at it as taking advantage of her naïve willingness. She looked at it as an opportunity to serve and felt connected. Wow.
Kayla and I are thirteen years apart. She was the last one of my mom’s four children to receive her driver’s license. Not so much just because she was the youngest. It just became a really hard task for her to conquer. Driving was a worldly thing. And her mind just wasn’t on the world. That’s what I liked to believe. Don’t know that it gave any comfort to her that I thought that way.
She was diligent. She took at least three different classes – with each she would take the driver’s test at least three times – never passing. Never earning her driver’s license. It wasn’t until after I got married to Roland that he took her out and created a new confidence. She finally had a driver’s license after she turned 27.
Kayla didn’t do a lot of heavy dating as I recall. And just as with me, Kayla also married late in life – though not quite as late. She just gave birth to her second child, a boy named after my father. There first was a girl she had named after Bill’s first wife.
Our sister-in-law should start a Blog. Most everything that falls from her mouth seems so profound and full of wisdom. I admire her and her sense of being. She is such a positive person to be around and so full of hope and comfort. I have always thought that after she joined our family.
The older she gets the wiser and more profound her thoughts sound. She’s not a butt-in-ski. She’ll hold her tongue unless you ask for her advice. She is such an awesome person. Everyone deserves to have that awesomeness in their lives. I am so grateful for her – though I don’t always show it.
Sunny embraces life and has taught her four children to do the same – or has tried to. None seem as extroverted as she is.
Sunny always invites enthusiasm and shares her joy with other. She points out beautiful things to others. Perhaps I have her on a pedestal – but I am NOT the only one. She really is a great asset to our family.
I am so grateful for each of my sisters. I love them both and value the friendships that we have established.