The Last Two Personalities

 

I understand the need for plans – especially when others are involved – but overall I am a spontaneous gal.  I don’t like to plan.  Plans don’t always go accordingly.  If things are done spontaneously, there is less disappointment on my end.

Scenarios:  planning Jaime’s birthday party around the unpredictable weather – or in the case of her “sweet sixteenth” the pandemic . . .

Activities and events have to be planned out and announced ahead of time to get a good turnout – one would hope.  My jeopardy game (here) was cancelled three years in a row before it finally came to pass 

You book your tickets in advance so that you have a guarantee.  You choose September believing it will be cooler.  Who knew there’d be a heatwave and fires that late in the year?  But you aren’t able to get a refund.  So now what?  There is no plan B.

 

According to Google An assertive person is more calm, confident, and laid-back, while a turbulent person is more anxious, self-conscious, and perfectionist.  I can see why one is 54 and the other 46.  So close.  

I am a lot more organized in a work setting than I am with my personal life.  If I have deadlines to reach I stay on task and endure until the job gets done.  There doesn’t seem to be a lot of spontaneity in the work situation.  

Perhaps that is why I don’t get excited about careers or goals.  Yes, I am ambitious to a degree, but in my personal life spontaneity just seems to work out better than the disappointments of having plans fall through.

52% Feeling

 

I think in many cases the “personality” quizzes are geared towards job/career and not so much “personal” life.  But I seldom ever take a quiz with a job in mind, let alone a career.  Why not just make a career out of uplifting others?  Even if it means one doesn’t get paid.  Money isn’t everything.  Nor does it necessarily equal success.  Not in my book anyway.

There have been many times I have passed up opportunities or advance in promotion when I know that someone else can benefit.  I think putting another’s happiness before my own can make me equally as happy if not more than if I allowed myself to take the reigns. 

One example that comes to mind is when a friend and I had joined a bowling team.  One of the members was a single guy who seemed to be interested in both of us, and I knew she liked him.  I could have gone out with him but thought she might do better in his company.  They were married and as far as I know are still together. 

I do tend to allow my emotions to get the better (or worst?) of me – especially when finances are involved.  I don’t think I’m nearly as sentimental as I used to be – still I do miss items based on sentimentality and not so much financial worth.  I will generally follow my heart over more head – or at least wish that I would.  When I go by my head it generally has a negative effect.

I used to be impatient with others for not understanding my point of view but have gone from tolerance to an almost compassionate state.  I didn’t think I would ever say or feel this, but I know that having Biff and Clair here has been really good for me.  They are different people who think different thoughts, experience different emotions and will never change to my way of thinking or how I feel. 

The diversity in our household right now is less than ideal but somehow has created a sense of peace and acceptance.  Be lying if I said I was totally happy with the situation.  I would still like my own space but have come to realize that they are more important.

Richard will often turn the TV on to Maury or some other related show where people argue in front of the camera.  I don’t enjoy watching people argue or take pleasure in other’s misery.  It isn’t funny.  It’s sad and pathetic.  I don’t support that kind of behavior.  And yet there are many in the nation who thrive on it.  The disrespect between others boost ratings.  Violence is fun to watch.  I don’t get it.  It either upsets or disgusts me. 

I do tend to allow my emotions to control me more than I control them, but I am learning.  I hope that through the experiences that I am currently experiencing that I have become a better person than I was last week or last month – surely I am a better person than I was a year ago.

I tend to let the weather control my mood also.  I don’t know how to change that one.

81 Observant

 

Next is 81 observant.  That seems to fit the Introvert portrait as far as I can tell.  I may be intuitive to a small degree but overall I am not. I have become aware that not one size will fit all and what works best for one situation may not even apply to another.  I think this post provides some good insight as to the difference between observant and judgment 

I do enjoy going to art museums for a short time.  I enjoy some works while others do not appeal to me.  I don’t enjoy discussing “what this piece means” or “abstract and balance and all whatever else there is”.  I like art for the eye appeal not because of one’s (artist included) interpretation.  Just let me enjoy with my eyes.

However I do find myself wondering about why certain lyrics were written or what meaning a song has for the author.  Usually I will like a song based upon the music before I even know what the words are. I don't know why I am willing to explore lyrics that I hear as opposed to what I see.

I am more comfortable being observant than intuitive.

Personality on Hold

          I have posted only two of six thoughts on the personality quiz that I took.  Thus I have four to go but will wait before posting the next as today is Jai’s birthday.  We had her spring break.  It was good to have her home.  We played a few games with one another.  Sadly not with the entire family as our house is in disarray and has been for the entire year due to water damage and contractor delays (which really is another post within itself) and thus lack of room. 

Jaime had actually had to resort to sleeping in a bed rather than on the floor which she seems to prefer. No floor space in the room that started out as the office but houses Ally’s possessions.  Jaime will need her own room come summer and it doesn’t appear that the others will be leaving anytime soon.

Jaime spent her last weekend with some friends at a lake house near Reedsport.  She did not return until after three.  Richard and I loaded her up and drove her back to Ashland.  It started snowing before we returned to Myrtle Creek.  Hit a few pockets of snow and slowed traffic on our return in the dark.  I would have suggested to just stop off somewhere for the night but I have a doctor’s appointment in half an hour.

I know at least four people who have birthday's today.  I only went to Jaime's wall for a personal greeting and posted a gif for all four on my wall tagging each of them.  First day of no mask wearing in the Oregon health care (at least for now) 

87% Introverted

     Popularity was never important to me, but I wasn't thrilled about being bullied.  I guess I did okay as an outcast and perhaps that is what shaped me from lacking the desire to be social.

A strong lean toward being introverted came as no surprise to me.  I have always preferred being alone or in really small groups.  I have never really been one to strike up conversations – especially with the unknown though my role in the RS presidency has pushed me out of my comfort zone.  I find that I do enjoy greeting people and getting to know them – like the speed friendship activities. 

I don’t enjoy large groups.  I don’t initiate activities.  I avoid leadership roles – though I have become more comfortable with taking charge . . . well, maybe not.  For instance, if I am asked to teach I make myself a conductor and ask questions that I pray will lead in a direction other than myself.  I don’t normally enjoy drawing attention to myself.

One question asked if I had had an exhausting day would I like to wind down with a social activity.  To me that is NOT winding down.  Give me a book.  Give me YouTube.  Give me my kindle. Give me a deck of cards so that I might play solitaire. I would prefer no people if I’m trying to wind down. 

Diving Into Another Speculative Truth . . . . maybe

 

Biff sent one of those personality quizzes to Richard who in turn sent it to me.  His given personality was/is Advocate and mine came out Adventurer.  Apparently there are 14 more.  I was not surprised by the results of either one of them. 

Many of the same statements you either agree with, disagree or remain neutral.  The results indicate your introverted level compared to being extraverted, being observant as opposed to intrusive.  Those two fields were obviously one way or another for me – without my even taking the quiz. 

Everything else was about neutral for me.  Feeling over thinking (in other words relying on my emotions over my brains) prospecting over judging which actually surprised me as so often I have been a conclusion jumper and do tend to judge others unfairly.  Turbulent as opposed to assertive. 

April starts tomorrow.  I plan to detail the five areas just a bit more based on comments and how I leaned and why. 

What Happened?

I had thoughts that

didn’t get posted or even

written to transfer into

 

Today is Steven’s birthday

Jaime’s is on the 3^rd.

Currently she is

at home but will

have to return before

her birthday as that is

when school starts again

 

Richard purchased some

bedsheets for Jaime and I

made the bed that

Ally never sleeps in. 

I thought Ally might get

excited about the décor on

the bed and so marked it with a

happy birthday sign so that

she would know it

was for Jaime.

 

Ally has been sick ever since

I don’t think she has even been

in the room since before

Jaime arrived.

Poor kid. 

Doesn’t have a typical childhood.

That’s for sure.