Each of us has traditions. Many are the same. Some vary. Some get lost. Some don’t work. A tradition may be carried on for
generations. Some may brush away.
One of my favorite Christmas books is
“God’s Vitamin C for the Christmas Spirit”
which shares stories, ideas, traditions and reasons. One of the thoughts I read was written by Christi
Anne Shepeard in which she shares a tradition of “The Jesus Sock”
The story unfolds that there is an
extra sock in her possession – one that doesn’t match the other socks selected
for each family member that year. She
decided to make it a sock for the Savior in which her family would write letters
and insert them into the sock – every year.
I thought that sounded like a cool
tradition – one I wanted to incorporate into my brand new family. But only Randy and I seemed serious about
keeping the tradition and wrote faithfully for three years or so. And I continued by myself for a while. But then I seemed to lose track as well. But our thoughts and words to Jesus are
pretty much all year around without the sock.
Gifts - One
of my favorite traditions is to actually take turns watching one another as we
open our gifts individually. When
everyone is tearing into their own gifts they miss out on the joy of watching
one another – I think. I don’t know when
it started for the family I grew up with, but I remember doing it that way more
than not. And that’s how we did it after
I married into my new family.
I thought the greatest Christmas would
be if we could milk unwrapping packages all day. I tried incorporating thoughts and scripture
or singing carols between each gift.
That lasted only one Christmas.
But I finally got my wish when Jenna was a year and a half.
Oddly enough her sisters actually
spent Christmas Eve night with us – but Roland was instructed to have them home
by 1:00 on Christmas afternoon. The ward
had provided many of the gifts that were under the tree – plus there were some
from each sibling and the girls had brought gifts for Jenna, Roland, me and the
boys.
We had set up an appointment to feed the
missionaries for an afternoon lunch. And just so the girls wouldn’t miss out on
seeing one another’s reactions, we had to make sure to open all the gifts that
were to or from the girls before the missionaries arrived.
We’d opened maybe 20 gifts before the missionaries
arrived. Somehow we had missed the one
to the boys from Francis and Pamprin.
But Jenna took it upon herself to find and open the gift while we
visited with the three Elders who came for lunch.
After the Elders left our house, we loaded
up the cars. Roland took Francis and
Pamprin back to Malificent’s and I took Jaime and her brothers to my mom’s and
we opened more gifts after Roland joined us.
We were at my mom’s for several hours,
playing games with siblings and cousins and enjoying the holiday. It was kind of late when we returned back to
the house where Roland and I resided at the time – still many packages awaited
beneath the tree. Each we opened one at
a time. It had been an all day
event! I absolutely loved it! And would love to do it again.
Ornaments - And then there’s the ornaments. Mom and Dad had no ornaments the first year
they were married. They decided each of
their children would have ornaments to take with them when we left the nest. My
mom and dad traditionally brought each child an ornament for every year they
lived at home.
Actually tried that one with the boys –
but it didn’t take. They had ornaments.
I had ornaments – more than just the ones from home – they had doubled,
quadrupled even. And the amount of
ornaments in the box always outnumbered the branches on our mostly Charlie
Brown trees.
Roland was more into themed trees. One year we had a boring one that consisted
only of silver baubles. I like the
personalized ornaments much better. The
children have always decorated the tree.
I believe Jenna rearranges the ornaments on a daily basis.
Family dinner - we do this on Christmas Eve. For the longest
time we had it at the home of my great aunt on my father’s side. It continued – even when the family seemed to
outgrow the house. 10 of us became 12
and then 16, 17, 20 . . . and then it became too much work for my great
aunt. So we did it at mom’s house for a
while – 25, 30, 32 – in-laws, schedules, more-than-not inconvenient
weather. And one year we said: “Maybe we
can do a family bbq in July instead” which has its perks.
We still do a family dinner, but right now
it is just mom and her children and their families. 14, 15 16, 18 and growing. Neither my sister
nor I have houses large enough to have us all around the table – but to take
the stress off mom, we did a simple dinner at my brother’s house last year. Their house is small, too – but somehow it
seems to work. As it would have worked
at the first house that Roland and our children and I lived in.
Hats - On Christmas morning the child who
passes out the presents wears the Santa cap. Often the rest of us will wear elf
or Santa caps as we open our gifts.
Exchange - There is still gift exchange – though family to
family is more of a recent thing where we draw names. We used to get for everybody – but the
economy’s made it tough. Actually, we
didn’t even draw names this year (that usually takes place on
Thanksgiving) Just as well. We’re all on the financially strained side –
three of the families are anyway.
Movies - I
enjoy watching Christmas movies, no matter how trite and sappy. I will always tune in to “It’s a Wonderful
Life” just as Clarence jumps in the water to save George who jumps in after
him. I love that cute angel.
A tradition I have only for myself is to
watch at least five different versions of the Christmas Carol between
Thanksgiving and New Years. Among my
favorite are the Muppets, the American Christmas Carol, Mr. Magoo and the
musical Scrooge.
And
those are just a few of my personal examples. What are some of yours?
Jonah is more of a themed Christmas tree person, too, but I always loved the potpourri of various ornaments on our tree. And I loved getting a new one each year.
ReplyDeleteI also enjoyed the family dinners. I kind of miss the big get-together at Christmas, and it wasn't quite the same when we moved it to Mom's. But I do like the Christmas in July tradition.
I used to love the advent calendar we hung on the front door and taking each piece out on the individual days and pinning them to the tree on the calendar. It's still downstairs in her basement. Hopefully, it doesn't get thrown away.
Even though it's annoying work, I like the after-effects of putting up Mom's lights (usually on or around Thanksgiving). I wasn't there to do it this year. I wonder if Nate and Ellen have.
Anyway, thanks for the post. I enjoy your blog.
Roland and I went to a dinner the other night. They had funeral potatoes and carrots and ham! Reminded me of the dinners we had at Aunt Trudy's.
DeleteIt's nice to know the advent calender is still around. Had I known, I would have confiscated it for Jenna (it's one of the few things we actually have room for; did I tell you Aunt Trudy tried to give me a monster globe?)
Ellen and mom put up the tree right after Thanksgiving. I haven't noticed any outside lights.
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