Jenna is loud! Even when she is quiet for her, she is still loud by definition. I think that's one reason Biff is gone.
My eldest son, Biff, has a girlfriend in another
county. He says 45 minutes away. I haven’t driven it. But it is where he
current girlfriend lives. He drives
there on Saturday afternoon and doesn’t return home until late Monday night – I
would guess at the same time that Jeanie leaves for work . . .
He
works on Saturday nights which means he is commuting from Syracuse to Sandy –
that’s quite a commute. And
expensive. Good thing Biff is using his
own gas and not mine and Roland’s. Not
that he’d have our permission. If you’re
an avid follower you may recall from this post that Biff is supposed to be out
of the house.
Before
he started driving his car again (which I still don’t know whether it’s
registered or not) I had a dream that Biff brought Jeanie and her parents came
with him – not to drop him off, but to help him move. Biff introduced Jeanie as his wife and her
parents – our new in-laws. Now, my
sister-in-law Sunny would be mortified if one of her children came home and
announced he or she was already married.
Sunny would be hurt and heart –broken that she hadn’t been a part of her
child’s marriage.
In
my dream I showed no remorse, but total happiness. I hugged Jeanie and her parents and welcomed
them to the family – each was somewhat taken aback. Biff went with his new father-in-law to rent
a U-Haul and I helped Jeanie and her mom pack Biff’s belongings.
Our
visit was pleasant – as I recall – though I don’t know the exact conversation. I did tell them about how Roland and I had
met and that we were engaged for nine months before we were married and how we
had a “reception” a month later.
I
woke up before Biff and his father-in-law returned.
Roland
doesn’t think it is a good idea to start marriage under the same roof as
parents – but that is how Sunny and my brother Patrick started out. Living in the basement of her parents. Her father helped push Patrick into liking
Sunny as much as she liked him. That is
my understanding anyway. Her father had invited Patrick to go with their family
to California for their Disneyland vacation.
I believe that is where Patrick developed a love for Sunny.
Sunny
would have never eloped. I had thought
about it. My mom made me promise that I
wouldn’t. But if we hadn’t already been
married when terrorists crashed the planes into the Twin Towers at New York on
September 11, 2001, I would have broken that promise. I would have had Roland drive me to Las Vegas
just after I got off work. I thought the
world was coming to an end. I wanted to
be legally married before the end happened.
But we were actually married two days before.
The
world didn’t end in the same sense that I had in mind. But many of the comforts of the world I had
once known were lost. The economy
started its downfall and regardless of oral reports that the economy has gotten
better – not everyone sees that it has.
So many still struggle from day to day.
Struggle to put food on the table, to pay bills, to survive. The world didn’t end but I think a lot of
respect for it did.