When Jenna was a baby, Roland and I had our wills done with an attorney named Kevin Jackson. We each received copies - but I have no clue as to where they might be right now.
I do remember taking my copy to my mom’s house so that each will was kept at a different location. I may have put it in the crawl space off to the back of the house. It could still be there, but may be discarded if the current owners come across it. I don’t remember seeing it when we were cleaning out mom’s house.
Regardless, it needs to be updated. We certainly didn’t have much in the way of possessions at the time. My main concern (still is) is that in the event Roland and I should go before Jenna is 18, I would want her to stay with my family – though I think only one address on the wheel remains valid.
Kayla was the first name. She was still single at the time and lived at my mom’s address. The next person on the list was mom. The third person on the list is one of Roland’s sisters – the one who has raised a number of children due to family situations. The last on our list is Sunny and Patrick. Theirs is the valid address.
At the time all of our boys were still in school. I had asked Kayla if she would raise Jenna and she said she would be honored. Roland said he’d like the boys to stay with my family as well.
Meanwhile, Kayla has married and has three children of her own. The boys are of age now where Jenna could live with one of them if he and his wife were willing. I had taken Tony and Rochelle aside to tell them that they could raise Jenna in our house. I figured they’d oblige to keeping Jenna in the dual immersion program – that was before we moved.
Jenna said she doesn’t want to live with Tony and Rochelle. They are definitely NOT on time people. There seems to be tension on Tony’s part. Always has been. If someone gives him an inch, he’ll always wish he’d been given a mile. He doesn’t seem grateful about things and is always complaining. As mentioned in an earlier post, Roland’s nickname for Tony is Donald Duck. I don’t think I want Donald Duck raising my baby.
I had told Tony and Rochelle my wishes verbally. Nothing in writing. I am grateful for that, as I have changed my mind. I think it would be better if Jenna were to go with Randy and Carrie. Randy has always had a great mannerism about him. He will lovingly provide any discipline that will be needed. He doesn’t blow up. I think Randy would be a much better choice.
I hadn’t considered Biff. He doesn’t seem to do well with finances. Plus he already has his hands full with Jeanie – who often seems to break out into major mood swings of her own. I seriously think there is a chemical imbalance on her part.
Jenna and I would both love it if she could go with Kayla and Bill. I think Bill would do it in a heartbeat and think nothing of it. He and Jenna seem to share the same personality – which sometimes grates on Kayla’s nerves. Having two of them – maybe more (I think Gary might actually have a lot of Bill in him) than she is willing to handle. But then there are pluses. Kayla certainly wouldn’t allow Jenna to go unclaimed. (Not that that would happen)
I’d rather she stayed with my family than go with Roland’s. We teach values to Jenna that Roland’s family doesn’t share. Biff had lived with Roland’s sister for a while, and they would send him to church, but they did not attend with him. I don’t want that. Besides Roland’s family seem to be getting up there in years. My sibs are all younger than me. Though I realize age is not always a factor – there are concerns. I am already old enough to be Jenna’s grandmother. I’m not as active as the parents of many of her friends.
I don’t really think there is a cause for alarm. Roland and I will both live long enough to see Jenna graduate and get married. But there is always room for a back up plan. I don’t think we have any material possessions worth anybody making the trip to Oregon to make a claim – unless it’s for sentimental reasons. But I think I have scanned most of my pictures. But I think my brother, Corey, is the only one who would even place value on anything like that – unless Jenna, herself, wants them.
There’s probably not a whole lot of value in leaving instructions posted to a blog. I know my family members know who I’m talking about, but how would it ever be proved in court since I’m not even using real names. Well, I did for the attorney. His name is real. Don’t know his location. I believe he’s moved twice since we first met with him.
I definitely don’t want DCFS to be in charge of the whereabouts of my little girl. DCFS is one fouled up system in my opinion. I don’t wish for any family members to be fighting it out in courts. We already did that with Jenna’s sisters. It was a losing battle all along. Not just for us, but for them.
Don’t know why it’s on my mind even. But it is. There is so much we need to take care of. Getting Oregon drivers’ licenses and plates for our car. Finding a doctor should we ever have the need. Maybe a dentist. Jenna LOVES to go to the dentist. I think that’s weird.