I started my blog on New Year's 2012. My goal was to create a new post for each day. My goal was to keep them positive. For the most part, I think they were. It appears that I had been faithful about blogging each day for the first few months, and then it tapered off into at least 20 posts, but by summer it was less. I had a great excuse though. Jenna was home from school and I needed to spend time with her and not on the computer.
December came and I was once again going to post every day. All of my posts would center around Christmas. I didn't want to be so cold as to not acknowledge the shootings on the 14th at Sandy Hooks elementary in Newton Connecticut. Innocent children . . .
I did not mention any other shootings . . . my blog had somehow turned into thoughts on dementia, assisted living, transportation and weather . . . it isn't because I didn't feel or grieve. I feel sad, I feel anger - my emotions are not different from any other. I wasn't trying to avoid the topic by not mentioning what has happened - way too many times. I haven't felt my words on the subject would be of any comfort or interest or have relevance.
Two years before the shootings happened in Las Vegas, I heard about the shootings that happed at Umpqua Community College. We were still new to the area. I had such a great respect for our community at that time as it appeared the entire county had pulled together during this tragic event. Two years later (both took place October 1st) I am reading facebook posts from both Corey and Joh that they are alright. Oh, but I fail to mention Orlando and all the other shootings (Trevor Noah, here, says there's been over 20 in just the last two years) . . . what is wrong with us?
As I was reading the summary of Bonnie Oscarson's talk (found here) she says "we are touched when we see the suffering and great needs to those halfway around the world, but we may fail to see there is a person who needs or friendship siting right next to us in class?" Actually, I think that was the theme of conference as it was mentioned in several other talks in all six meetings.
I cannot say if all the shooters have been bullied - though I think it's a safe guess. What evidence have been researched into these people's backgrounds? What is it that they have in common? Were they mistreated by others until one day they just snapped? We don't even know why they did it as they ended up turning the gun on themselves. The police make speculations. The media makes speculations. I'm making the speculation that each of these men (or boys) had been mistreated by others.
Be kind to others. Treat people as you would want to be treated. Make time to understand if not to love. Treat people decent.
Remember the poem "Sticks and Stones can break my bones, but names will never hurt me?" What idealist thought that up? Name calling and disrespect hurt people all the time. How many innocent people were shot at because somebody snapped - possibly because they hadn't been treated kindly by another. Think about it.