There
have been countless times when I have admired each of my brothers for their
powerful restraint – for weighing the situation before drawing
conclusions. And then there’s me. Even more countless times of leaping so much
further than I have obviously looked.
When will I learn?!?
Recently
I had created a post called “Any Day Now – Reprise” comparing the new Church
policy to the system’s ignorance of Marco, a character in the movie “Any Day
Now” starring Alan Cummings and Garret Dillahunt as a
same-sex couple who love Marco and battle it out in court for full
custody. Perhaps I was wrong – or
ignorant rather. Just as so many of the
characters that were supposedly trying to protect Marco were ignorant.
“Last
week, the church instructed its local leaders that same-sex couples are
apostates and that children living with them can't take part in church
activities, including baptism, until they're adults and leave home.”
It’s
a hot topic on facebook and in the news.
People are leaving the Church as a result of anger, or disbelief, or
lack of understanding – or prayer. Did
they pray about the revelation? Did they
pray about having their names removed from Church records?
I,
myself, have struggled with it. In my
post, I said I was ashamed. I felt
ashamed. I still do to a degree. Still have not felt that satisfactory
confirmation, but perhaps I’m getting closer as I read beautiful testimonies
from those who are no longer members but still have the faith that it will all
work out. I have read testimonies of
those who’ve had to wait to be baptized or go through the temple and found “great
rewards” that they may have overlooked if they hadn’t had to “fight” for what
they have. I have also read about hurt and pain and anger and lots of questions
and many who have leaped bounds without looking – many who sound as though they
were wavering in the church for a while and are looking for an excuse to
leave.
I
have read these comments on facebook:
“I still have great reservations about
this policy and am still processing my feelings about it . . .”
“Does
anyone see that the new policy has been re- examined in order to PROTECT
children from having to make difficult decisions about their parents lifestyle before
they are ready?! This is a fragile relationship in the world already, and the
LDS church does not want to make it more difficult. People get over yourselves
and stop trying to take everything that is good, and make it into something it
isn't.”
“ I love children, all children.
Period. When I read the media's presentation of this statement, I was a bit
conflicted.
“The church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day saints is the Church Christ founded in his day, and has been restored to earth by Him under direction of his Father through a prophet.
“The church is still guided by
revelation from God. If we believe this, and I do. We are hearing the word of
God when the prophet speaks, (or makes policy).
Still, we do not blindly follow the Prophet or the Church. If we have questions or conflicts, we should ponder and pray for our own understanding and personal revelation to obtain confirmation of them.
Still, we do not blindly follow the Prophet or the Church. If we have questions or conflicts, we should ponder and pray for our own understanding and personal revelation to obtain confirmation of them.
“It seems the same people who already
criticize the Church are the ones making new criticisms.
“In the end, I would look at it this
way. God is the head of this church and guides it through revelation to his
Prophets . . .
“Because I feel conflicted, I will pray
to understand this policy better. In the end I am God's Child. So are you. He
loves us all equally, and personally. In understanding that I have no conflict.”
As I have mentioned in several posts, I
have often felt discrimination from the Church or its leaders or in lessons or
presentations because I was single, or because I’ve been in debt or friends who
have come from broken homes or have been cheated on or friends who have been
abused . . . it’s hard to sit through lessons or talks that are geared to the
minority, when I’m believing the majority don’t fit into that “perfect Mormon
mold” and I know there are quite a few that really don’t want to.
We
have been counseled from the beginning to “not just take the leaders’ words on
faith” but to seek our own confirmation – to study it out and to pray – which I
have been doing. I still feel misguided,
insulted, hurt, betrayed . . . but I know I can feel differently if I rely upon
him rather than the words on facebook or even those who have blogged in defense
of the church or in defense of the new policy.
Those who have painted the “unbaptized” children as the chosen ones –
who have to “fight” to make it worth it.
And then there are the church attenders who seem diligent as far as attendance goes, but have issues with the gospel - or simply don't know or are familiar with even just the basic beliefs.
And then there are the church attenders who seem diligent as far as attendance goes, but have issues with the gospel - or simply don't know or are familiar with even just the basic beliefs.
I
wish I had a gift with words. I don’t
feel like I’ve expressed myself accurately.
I'm happy to know that the policy was changed over a year and a half ago https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/church/news/policy-changes-announced-for-members-in-gay-marriages-children-of-lgbt-parents?lang=eng
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