In
these two posts (here and here) I mentioned how much Jenna loves learning about her family
members. Until we had played Chatter Matters, she hadn't known that Roland used
to play the trombone - or anything about his childhood really. Usually it's just her and I, but she did
manage to rope Roland into playing with us between conference. After she won the game, we continued to go
through the "family room" and "my room" cards so that Jenna
could know Roland a little better. It reminded me of when my sibs and I would
force the Ungame questions upon my dad.
My
parents actually did three listed on the card - hiking was more of a seasonal
activity or annual thing - and it was usually a part of either a daytip or full vacation so the specific places we hiked were Yellowstone National Park or Timpanogos Cave in American Fork, Utah.
I don't know
that shopping was ever restricted to just the weekend. Movies also occurred on days other than the
weekend. I chose number one for myself
as they took us to church which falls on the weekend. By process of elimination, Jenna and I
guessed that Roland's family would go shopping choosing from just those
four. Church was definitely out and they
didn't seem like they'd be much for hiking. His parents (well his dad in particular) liked to have drinking parties - but that wasn't on the card.
I
remember going to the drive-in theatres when I was younger. Mom and Dad had taken Patrick and I to one
drive-in theatre called the Woodland.
The walls that surrounded the theatre were decorated in colored bubbles
- like on a loaf of Wonder bread - but with more colors.
There was a playground area for children to
play before the movie started or even during intermission (because there was
usually a double feature or sometimes movies that actually had an intermission;
but we may have been asleep by then.
I also remember going to different movie theatres with my
family both as a child and an adult;
Roland says the one and only time he'd ever gone to the movies with his
parents is when he was an adult and had paid for all three of them to see
"Kelly's Heroes"
Not all multiple choice, but once again Jenna and I had
both predicted that Roland would answer "Watching TV". I don't remember actually ever sitting down
to watch TV as a family - unless it was something like "The Wonderful
World of Disney"
Mostly we played
games or talked. I don't know any
families who read together. Unless it's
the scriptures - which I don't imagine would amount for "more" time
spent.
I don't know that Roland's family watched TV together
either. It was long before cable, and
the TV offered only three stations.
There were no remotes and so the kids had to act as the remote and turn
the station to whatever dad wanted to watch.
We learned that his father had only a fourth grade education and would often get drunk and come home and line
up his children and say, "Your mother and I don't owe you a
living". I think my mom's dad may have been that way. She said she was scared of him and when he would get drunk he would smack her mom around. She was determined to give her children a family environment different from the one in which she had been raised.
Roland's family didn't
believe in families like mine - nor did I have any clue that families like his
existed. As I grew up, I realized that
my family was not the norm. when we had all worked for Snelgrove's, for example, (each of us having worked there except for my dad) we would take the change out of our pockets and Kayla's would remain on the kitchen table for a few days. None of the rest of us would take it as we knew it did not belong to us. The money would have been gone in a heartbeat with many other families. The older I get, the more unrealistic my
family seems. That's too bad.
I don't know about Roland's side, and I don't believe he
knows either. But he counts Uncle Ted as
family, and so with this question we all answer Uncle Ted - who celebrated his
100th birthday in February (I don't know why I didn't post about it to my blog;
I did to facebook)
My parents met at a Church dance. I was surprised to learn that Roland's
parents had met at a dance also. He said
his dad had been going with another girl at the time but had told his mom that
someday he was going to marry her. I
think she just laughed it off - probably rolled her eyes as I did when Roland
proposed to me.
It had surprised us all when Roland said his favorite movie
was/is "Oh, God, you Devil" He
received it for Christmas one year because he had said it was his
favorite. I have only seen him watch it
one time.
It's great how some memories will trigger others. I think these questions are great
conversation starters and I am happy that Jenna prefers this interaction over
spending time on electronic devices.
